The man with the snow-white hair saw me. He smiled, raised a hand in greeting, and waved me over. Geez! He wasn’t even wearing a hat. Despite that inauspicious start, Don and I would be umpiring partners for the next five years.

Umpires spend a lot of time in parking lots, before and after games. Often we set up folding chairs and dress into and out of our gear from the beds of pickup trucks or the trunks of our cars. Sometimes, we just relax, have a cold drink, and let the breeze blow away the sweat accumulated from calling a three-hour game dressed in polyester and plastic, exceptionally poor choices for baseball in the Arizona desert. And, always, we talk.

Early in my friendship with Don, I spent a great deal of time feeling sorry for myself. I told him that I feared chance meetings with people I knew from my media days, dreading that awful question: “So what are you doing now?”

In the meantime, I learned that Don was a Vietnam veteran: an Army Special Forces soldier who did two tours in-country. He was a decorated war hero and his profound limp was the result of a bullet that almost killed him. The close-clipped white beard covered scars left from other battle wounds. Then there was the Post Traumatic Stress caused by memories he carried from the war. But it was the mist that rained from American planes that would transform his life, the Agent Orange defoliant that destroyed the jungles and the lives of soldiers the poison fell upon.

Don was married and had eight children. His family was the center of his world. He was devoutly religious and believed that another life waited, one without the pain of his deteriorating body and the nightmares that plagued him. As a non-believer I argued the point, which might seem mean. But Don loved to do verbal battle, trying to convince me that my skepticism was misplaced.

We talked endlessly, often about my failing marriage to an alcoholic, my sadness at the loss of my career, and my inability to pay my bills. Don, meanwhile, almost never complained. He did tell me harrowing tales of his war years, but would always add stories about the wonderful people he’d met and the beauty of Vietnam.

Don died in July of 2010. He was 60. I’d not been to see him often enough since he retired from baseball. The last few occasions he was bedridden, though he never failed to grace me with a huge smile and a warm hand.

During the next few years I would often think about Don and I would sometimes get the feeling that he was somewhere nearby. Though, of course, that was impossible.

Then, one afternoon, I was standing in a classroom. The teacher behind the desk, who I had known for many years, looked at me with a quizzical expression.

“Who do you know that might be wearing an Army uniform?” she asked, her gaze focusing just behind me.

“What?” I turned around. There was no one there.

“Do you know who he is?”

“Who who is?”

“There’s someone here for you. He’s wearing fatigues. I sometimes see things,” she said with a smile and a shrug.

I turned around again. “Don?” I mumbled.

She paused. “Yes, it’s Don,” she finally said. “He’s got his hands on your shoulders. He wants you to know that he’s fine and you shouldn’t worry about him. And he wants you to be happy.”

In that moment, the skeptic in me began to fray. My normal impulse would be to argue and say “prove it,” but I couldn’t, because I believed her.

How do I explain what happened? I can’t. And while the experience didn’t suddenly make me religious, it did cause me to think about whatever happens next in a new way.

I have never sensed Don around me again. Still, I hope he’d be glad to know that I’ve taken his advice. Now, I do my best to find happiness in every day.

Sergeant Don Clarkson was a Green Beret who served in Vietnam with the 9th Infantry ARVN Soldiers from December 1968 to November 1970. Don died in 2010 from complications of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and Agent Orange poisoning.

Anne Montgomery’s new novel, The Scent of Rain, tells the story of two Arizona teenagers whose fates become intertwined. Rose flees into the mountains to escape from her abusive polygamous community where her only future is marriage to a man older than her father. Adan, whose only wish is to be reunited with his mother, is on the run from the cruelties of the foster care system. Are there any adults they can trust? Can they even trust each other?  The Scent of Rain is available at https://www.indiebound.org/book/9780996390149 and wherever books are sold.