What am I thankful for? The gift of curiosity

As often happens this time of year, we are called upon to consider that for which we are thankful. And while I am of course grateful for family and friends and a roof over my head and food in the fridge, I’ve been leaning toward adding to that list, and it’s something that might come as a surprise.

Curiosity.

When I was a teacher, part of my job was helping teenagers prepare for the future. “What do you like to do?” I’d ask, hoping to steer them toward planning for a profession they might enjoy. But way too frequently, the answer would be, “Nothing.”

“How about sports?” I’d press. “Or hobbies?”

“Sleeping.”

I would try not to roll my eyes.

“Shopping!” many girls would pipe up.

These conversations routinely frustrated me, because I liked to do so many things. In fact, I still do. Which got me wondering why I run out of fingers when counting up subjects I find fascinating and why many of my students did not.

Turns out the answer is curiosity, something all humans are said to have in varying degrees. According to a Columbia University/Zuckerman Institute study, At its core, curiosity evolved as a survival mechanism. It encourages living things to explore their environment, learn what is safe, and find resources.”

Consider ancient hunter-gatherers who came across an unfamiliar plant. I’m sure the puzzled about whether it was eatable, good for healing, or useful in construction of some kind. And so the experimentation began. Thanks to curiosity, they might have located something that could potentially enhance their survival.

Jacqueline Gottlieb, a PhD and lead investigator of the study, explained that humans can be curious even without the possibility of obvious rewards. “Curiosity entails a sort of enthusiasm, a willingness to expend energy and investigate your surroundings. And it’s intrinsically motivated, meaning that nobody is paying you to be curious; you are curious merely based on the hope that something good will come when you learn.”

Which had me wondering again why some of us seem to be innately curious and others are not. It turns out that curiosity is a skill, one we can learn and improve upon. But how do we do that?

This is where parents and teachers come in. We can encourage young people to develop curiosity in numerous ways. We can model curiosity by wondering aloud. “Wow! That shooting star was beautiful! Where do you think it came from?” or “Why do you think ancient people built those pyramids?”

We can take children to museums and libraries, parks and natural habitats, and let them explore, noting what they might be instinctively drawn to, subjects we can build on. For example, I’ve been a rock collector since I was in elementary school—I have about 400 specimens in my living room alone— a hobby that often prompts the question, “Why?” I finally realized it was those trips to the Museum of Natural History in New York where I was fascinated by the gem and mineral collection, and the camping trips where I’d find rocks strewn in forests and streams. Note that when I was 12, my parents gave me a geology science kit for Christmas, containing, among other things, a book with colorful pictures of rocks, a tiny hammer, and a collection of mineral samples. I was charmed. Perhaps today I would not be a rock collector, a hobby that gives me immense joy, had my parents not exposed me to them at such an early age.

I’m hoping my grandson Adrian might one day love rocks as much as I do.

I realize in today’s frantic world some parents just don’t have the time to explore with their children, so supporting such efforts at school could be the answer. Those field trips you might recall from your youth were learning experiences chosen to broaden your horizons, events to prompt questions, and, yes, boost curiosity.

And while we must do our best to instill a sense of curiosity in the generations that follow, we shouldn’t forget ourselves. I’ve learned that, as we age, we are often no longer able to do some of the things we love, which is why it’s so important to be curious. We should never stop looking into new subjects and hobbies. Nor should we forget that “Why?” is a beautiful gift, one for which we should all be thankful.

Wolf Catcher

Anne Montgomery

Historical Fiction

In 1939, archeologists uncovered a tomb at the Northern Arizona site called Ridge Ruin. The man, bedecked in fine turquoise jewelry and intricate bead work, was surrounded by wooden swords with handles carved into animal hooves and human hands. The Hopi workers stepped back from the grave, knowing what the Moochiwimi sticks meant. This man, buried nine hundred years earlier, was a magician.

Former television journalist Kate Butler hangs on to her investigative reporting career by writing freelance magazine articles. Her research on The Magician shows he bore some European facial characteristics and physical qualities that made him different from the people who buried him. Her quest to discover The Magician’s origin carries her back to a time when the high desert world was shattered by the birth of a volcano and into the present-day dangers of archeological looting where black market sales of antiquities can lead to murder.

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Defining success: It’s personal

I have been asked a number of times lately how I define success. I now realize my answer to that question has changed significantly over the years.

A few decades back I, like many others, may have considered my bank account first, when presented with the question. Do I have the money to do what I want? But success isn’t quantified that easily. While money can reduce financial anxiety and provides a sense of security, I don’t think wealth alone can make us feel successful. There’s simply more to it than that.

The funny thing is we often don’t grasp that we are successful. The Forbes article “Signs you’re being successful even if you don’t realize you are,” points out different ways to look at success.

For example, are you a person who can comfortably stand up and speak with authority? Studies show just 1% of employees feel confident enough to voice their views to others. This is a form of success.

Do you consider yourself happy? The vast majority of people, 90% in one study, believe that success comes from one’s sense of happiness and joy.

And what about your dreams? According to Forbes, “Successful people give themselves permission to dream as big as they want.  When you create a vision for your life that might seem wildly ambitious, but you take steps every day towards it, know you are successful.” 

And note here that you don’t necessarily have to achieve that dream to be successful. It’s the process of moving towards a goal that makes one a success. As the great Arthur Ashe once said, “Success is a journey, not a destination. The doing is often more important than the outcome.” 

And let’s not forget about failure, a frequent companion to those who are successful. Getting to the top of any mountain requires trial and error. Those who are successful pick themselves up after a disappointment, learn from their mistakes, and start climbing again. Thomas Edison famously admitted that he failed more than one thousand times while trying to invent the lightbulb. On failure in general he was quoted as saying, “I have not failed 10,000 times—I’ve successfully found 10,000 ways it will not work.”

Clearly, success comes in many forms. Some find it in the meaningful work they do. That means a job we look forward to. Not every day, perhaps, but maybe 85% of the time. And when I say job, I don’t mean only in the traditional sense. Of course, tending to one’s family would fall under the job umbrella. As would dedicated volunteer work. Success then might be attained by the contributions we make that impact our family and community.

The more I think about it, the more I realize success is personal. There is no one-size-fits-all. I suppose the ultimate test will come at the end of our lives. Can we look back and say, “Yes! I’m proud of what I did.” I do know that for me the answer will be simple. Success is dying with few regrets and good stories.

I’m working on it.

Your Forgotten Sons

Inspired by a true story

Anne Montgomery

Bud Richardville is inducted into the Army as the United States prepares for the invasion of Europe in 1943. A chance comment has Bud assigned to a Graves Registration Company, where his unit is tasked with locating, identifying, and burying the dead. Bud ships out, leaving behind his new wife, Lorraine, a mysterious woman who has stolen his heart but whose secretive nature and shadowy past leave many unanswered questions. When Bud and his men hit the beach at Normandy, they are immediately thrust into the horrors of what working in a graves unit entails. Bud is beaten down by the gruesome demands of his job and losses in his personal life, but then he meets Eva, an optimistic soul who despite the war can see a positive future. Will Eva’s love be enough to save him?

Release Date: June 6, 2024

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